Heavy sigh… Let’s see if I can get through this entry.
Being an individual that has had this word use against them; when I was 220+ pounds AND when I was 112 pounds. (For those of you that have not read about my journey, I stopped weighing myself at 220 pounds.)
Also, working in the fitness field, I see how often this word is thrown around. I was in an interview where I was told that we would not allow certain people into classes because they could not handle the intensity. I wondered if that individual could see the steam coming from my ears. I kept thinking of the names of students that I have taught and continue to teach that would not meet the criteria, but always give 110% in classes. Their effort not only shows at the end of class, but shows on their body as well. We all have to start somewhere. I can give other examples where I have heard the combination of the “f” word and “can’t” are combined, but just rethinking about these experiences gets my blood boiling.
I ask you: How do you see yourself? Do you allow the words of others to affect you? When I was 112 pounds, I knew what I was and that, if anything, I was I was skinny-fat… Two words I don’t like. I had probably no muscle to me. I knew what I saw when I looked in the mirror. I did not let the words that I heard define me. Are you using positive self-talk when you talk to yourself? Self-talk is a positive thing. It can be more powerful than how others talk about you. What others say about you can be turned off: you can walk away, you can tune them out, you can tell them to #$%#@!&* (use your imagination). Your mind, however, is only as strong as your willpower. That depends upon your journey. From what I have seen, the further people are along in their fitness journey, the stronger their positive self-talk becomes. Unless….
Are their saboteurs standing along your journey? Or could you be the one sabotaging others? We have all heard the saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” How would you like to be on the receiving end of this comment:
“It looks like you have put on some weight since the last time I saw you!”
What good does that do anybody? The person you are speaking to is most likely aware that he/she has gained weight and is already having feelings about it. Reverse the situation. How would you like it if someone came up to you and said such a thing? I know what you are going to say, “Syl, this doesn’t happen.” Oh, but it does fit family. It does, and because I love my job I have to keep myself from interrupting conversations or intervening in these situations, after the fact.
Here’s another one:
“If you take this product*, it will help you with your trouble areas.”
I understand and respect those individuals that are trying to grow a business, but at what cost? The self-esteem and respect of those you are trying to help? How does that help? Are you trying to help a friend or someone you don’t even know? Do me a favor, grow your business through referrals, social media, networking… Not just going up to a random person (or someone who you’ve only had 1-2 casual conversations with) and tell them this magic pill will help them lose weight.
“Unsolicited advice is the junk mail of life.” – Bern Williams
What about those that are passionate about fitness and some just “don’t get it”? There is an individual that is involved in fitness and recently her fit body has been used as a joke publicly on Facebook. Her physique was the punchline. Not her dedication, hard work, her willingness to help others, her contributions to the fitness community. What was a joke is that she “practices what she preaches.” Apparently, those that won’t do, ridicule. What did this fitness colleague do? She acknowledged it and moved on. She has been in the industry for a number of years and I believe that her experience helped her deal with the “haters”. I wish this for all my students for each of them that deal with those that are trying to get fit, in their time, in their way. You will deal with them along the way in one shape or size; be bigger than your haters! This is your destination…. Not theirs’!
*Disclaimer: I am a representative for a supplement company, but you can ask my up line… My sales stink because I do not push the product on people. I offer to those who ask.